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Be Myself
My roommate doesn't like to stay at school during our two days off. And she'd like to go out, just doesn't want to stay. She said there're too much memory of her BF at school. But since I"m a lazy person and always just want to stay in our room. She went shopping by herself yesterday. And she talked about her BF with one of her BF's friends here yesterday. Actually, every friends of his recommend Cindy not to be with him. Because they know more about him than Cindy does. So after talking with his friend, Cindy got a really bad mood yesterday. She even went to bed earlier than I did last night. she always wants to keep herself busy so that she won't think about him all the time. Yesterday she asked me if I would give up being with her BF if I were her. I didn't give any answer or advice. I don't want to be the one who make them break up or make them continue being together but without good relationship which may make Cindy cry all the time.
She usually asked advice from Vickie when Vickie's still here. She said that Vickie asked her to break up with him. Even though everytime everyone's answer was to break up with him. She still kept asking if she should.
She worte a very serious email and asked me if it's proper to send to him. I said if you want to be clear of what he's thinking or what he wants then just send it. But she ended up keeping that email and didn't send it out.
Even we didn't have to work today, she's quite busy today. She went swimming with Jessica this morning and we went to ice sliding this afternoon. I think she just doesn't want to think too much all the time. She called her BF yesterday and today. And he was drinking with his friends. She asked him if he went drinking with his Ex. He said "no." Well, even if he did, he wouldn't admit it.
Anyway, I hope she can be herself more, not go too deep to into it...
She usually asked advice from Vickie when Vickie's still here. She said that Vickie asked her to break up with him. Even though everytime everyone's answer was to break up with him. She still kept asking if she should.
She worte a very serious email and asked me if it's proper to send to him. I said if you want to be clear of what he's thinking or what he wants then just send it. But she ended up keeping that email and didn't send it out.
Even we didn't have to work today, she's quite busy today. She went swimming with Jessica this morning and we went to ice sliding this afternoon. I think she just doesn't want to think too much all the time. She called her BF yesterday and today. And he was drinking with his friends. She asked him if he went drinking with his Ex. He said "no." Well, even if he did, he wouldn't admit it.
Anyway, I hope she can be herself more, not go too deep to into it...
posted by Jackie at 2/11/2005 08:52:00 PM
1 Comments:
There are several reasons you shouldn't suggest a break up, especially if you are good friends with the girl. Here is one reason :
If she breaks up, then she could blame you for being sad and alone. Otherwise, she might also blame you for them doing something stupid with somebody that it turns out she actually loved. If they don't break up, then she will always think of you as the person that doesn't think their relationship can survive.
So, you lose either way. The only way you can win is if she breaks up and is happy about it because she sees how bad the guy was or she find a new guy to be with--who is better than the old one.
On the other hand, if you said they should stay together in that case, it really isn't a big deal. At most they won't think you understand about relationships and will stop asking for advice.
Don't get too deep into people's problems--just use logic, and you can avoid lots of messes. I tell people to break up sometimes, but only when I will make money on bets. I think that's pretty logical.
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